Sexting is stupid, because more often than not it makes the person on the receiving end go, “Eew, really?”
But flirting well via text? Hmm. It might just be the key to happy long-distance relationships.
It might seem odd to hear me say that getting involved with an old-fashioned cowboy who lives in the middle of nowhere has taught me the value of virtual flirting. But his physical remoteness and our busy schedules have made us both quite good at the art of sending and receiving affection — and butterflies — via text.
Yesterday, the cowboy came to see me in the city. As his big ol’ truck drew nearer, he texted his location. “San Antonio.” “Belen.” With each new announcement, I felt more and more excited to see him. When he was about half an hour from my house I texted that knowing he was so close gave me flutters in my tummy. His reply: “….your ‘tummy,’ huh?”
I burst out laughing. We do these little things all the time. They are never too graphic — actually, they are never overtly graphic at all, and I think that’s what makes them so fun and exciting. They are always sort of playful and leave lots to the imagination.
People who live together can sort of pass each other in the hall and share a little special look or a kiss. For those of us saddled with long distance relationships, the text flirt serves this same basic purpose.
So, what does an effective virtual text flirt do? It lets your partner know you’re thinking about them, that you’re crazy about them, and can’t wait to see them again.