When you ask experts what it takes to create and sustain a successful marriage, you get all kinds of predictable answers. Good communication skills, an ability to solve problems together, mutual respect. You’ve heard them all before, right?
But have you heard the one about how having a husband slightly uglier than the wife is a very good predictor of marriage success?
Sigh. Go ahead. Just shoot me now.
Yes, you heard right. Researchers at the University of Texas did a study that they claim proves that couples where the wife is more physically attractive than the husband have a better shot at success. They found a few ways to explain this.
One, men are shallower than women (whether nature or nurture is up in the air) and therefore will be “grateful” to have a wife prettier than they deserve and will treat her well as a result.
Two, the better looking the man, the more likely he will be to stray, especially if his wife is less attractive than he is. This goes along with other research showing that better looking men cheat more often than uglier ones.
Three, men value physical attractiveness in their mate more than women do, and so will view a prettier wife as being more valuable.
This is one of those things you really wish weren’t true, but you kind of know probably is.
I’ve long thought the cowboy was hotter than I, from a purely physical standpoint. He’s a head-turner. I’m a page-turner. That’s pretty much all there is to it. My forthcoming memoir is filled to bursting with all manner of insecure inner monologues about the fact or our uneven outwardly visible genetics, from our early days of dating. He assures me I’m beautiful, but…c’mon. I mean, I’m not ugly, but I’m not a model, like he was.
I do hope there are exceptions to this icky rule…but, then again, the cowboy and I are nowhere near marriage…so…oh, wait. Maybe that’s why. God, I hope not.
Anyway, what do you think? Does the unfortunate truth contained within this study annoy you as much as it does me? What do you think is going on behind the findings?